Woman's Boyfriend's Marriage Promise Altered by One Conversation with His Parents

A woman shared her story on Reddit after her boyfriend, who had promised marriage, suddenly reconsidered following a discussion with his parents. The relationship, which she described as serious and committed, has now ended.

The woman detailed her experience on the "Waiting_to_Wed" subreddit, explaining that both she and her boyfriend had been intentional about marriage from the start. She hoped to wed within 18 months, while he initially preferred to wait three years. As they neared the two-year mark of their relationship, he reassured her repeatedly that he was ready, and they openly discussed plans for having children.

She recalled, "He said he was comfortable marrying within a year after engagement so we could plan for children after spending a year just the two of us as a married couple." Despite regular arguments, which could become intense, he consistently reassured her that conflict was a normal part of relationships.

Even though she sometimes felt frustrated when he appeared self-centered, he would also become upset over how she expressed herself. Nevertheless, he continued to express happiness about his decision to commit and spoke confidently about their shared future.

As the planned engagement approached, he took her ring shopping, and everything seemed on track. Even amid family health issues, including his mother being diagnosed with MS and his aunt with cancer, he never suggested delaying their plans and met her family and communitya sign of serious intent in her culture.

However, she said everything changed suddenly after a conversation with his parents. They expressed doubts about their readiness for marriage, citing a single argument they had overheard, and even said they wouldnt have married each other if they had known each other better.

The next day, the boyfriend admitted he was anxious and needed more time. He confessed that he had been agreeing to everything to keep her happy, suppressing doubts for a year. He now questioned their long-term compatibility, particularly because of their past conflicts.

Despite three weeks of attempts to reconcile, she felt betrayed by the abrupt shift in his attitude. "Between the sudden flip-flopping, the family interference, the cancelled proposal, and the new narrative of 'I was never sure,' something in me snapped," she shared.

Although he continued therapy to work through his feelings and did not want to end the relationship, she ultimately decided to move on. She described the breakup as painful, but still wondered if there might be a chance for him to realize what he wants in the future.

In the Reddit discussion, many commenters praised her for prioritizing her own well-being, while others suggested the couple may have been incompatible from the start, despite their mutual desire for marriage.

Author: Jackson Miller